Good memories: a blessing or a curse?

It’s not the bad memories that make you hurt, but the good ones that you know you won’t get back.

No one enjoys a bad moment. Fights, breakups, misunderstandings, sickness, whatever it is, it arrives out of nowhere, takes you by surprise and devastates you. You’ll feel broken, scare to death and lose all hope. If it’s really serious (or if you’re a drama queen) it may seem the end of the world, like nothing else will be worth it, that you won’t be able to recover from it. But most times, after a while, when you are finally able to put things under perspective you see that once again you’ve surprised yourself and you made it through those rough times.

The day will come when you look back and it won’t be a big deal anymore, it won’t hurt or scare you like it did before because you grew up, moved on and found your way to overcome those obstacles.

Bad moments will come and go. The memory of them may remain but the pain will eventually start to fade and when you notice it you won’t feel it anymore.

Good memories on the other hand have the potential to haunt you your whole life. Good moments can be amazing. They can be the best thing in the world or the worse possible form of torture. When things go wrong in your life you hope for it to get better, but when you lose something that was perfect it’s difficult to believe you’ll find something else to meet those standards again.

Good memories can be fatal because they remind you what you’ve lost. You can try to ignore them and move on but, even if unconscientiously, you’ll always be comparing everything you live and experience to what you have lost.

You’ll wish to get to that place where you’ll genuinely be happy to have lived those moments but all you want is get them back.

Good memories have their place in life and eventually you’ll learn to cope with them but every once in a while you go back to those thoughts… and it will hurt knowing that you won’t get them back.